Have you (or someone you know) said “I don’t want to go to therapy because I already know what she’ll say. She’ll tell me to break up with my boyfriend.” This is a common belief about what therapy is like, but it’s FALSE. Therapists build a rapport with you so they can help you see yourself from different angles called blind spots. It’s our job to help you become more self-aware and make more decisions consciously instead of being run by your unconscious. If we told you what to do, you’d become more and more dependent on your therapist. This is why we refrain from giving advice even when you’re directly asking for it. Our goal is to help you learn to function higher in your own life.
There are many different types of therapy and each therapist is unique. Personally, I think psychodynamically in my head when understanding my clients and out loud I talk like a humanistic therapist. That means I try my best to speak plain and direct like a regular person and not use therapist voice or ask “how does that make you feel”.
I recommend to meet with a few different therapists to see what therapy is like when you’re first starting out and pick whoever you feel most comfortable with. Research shows relationship to the therapist is the factor most correlated with a successful treatment.